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Panti Bliss- Exceptional and Everyday

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I was fortunate enough to see a screening of “The Queen of Ireland” at the Denver film festival this weekend. I find myself gobsmacked by the sheer audacity that a drag queen can bring to the table.

Panti Bliss (Rory O’Neill) has become a symbol in Ireland for equality and fairness. Armed with the tenacity of survival and fueled by a few decades of entertainment savvy as well as an integrated refusal to be bullied, Panti stood strong when the dogma of religion reared its head to say that LGBT human beings don’t deserve the same rights (marriage and parenting) that most do and won the hearts of the Irish people and inspired their minds when a referendum for marriage equality was put for a national vote.

All the while, Panti remains  Rory O’Neill when the cameras are off. Born in a small Irish village known for its rough attitudes toward LGBT people, Rory left his hometown at a young age to become first a student, then a globetrotting crossdressing entertainer, an HIV survivor, a philanthropist, and a reluctant advocate.  He changed not only the loves and lives of his homeland, but changed the very same things in his village as well.

The film finishes with him giving an appearance (in drag) to a packed house in a tire store in the village where he grew up. This is perhaps the most poignant part of the film for me. To see Panti standing in a room rife with the source of his childhood shame, experiencing the bliss of the transformation of shame to acceptance.  It is remarkable.

I am posting a video of Panti’s “Noble Call”given at the National Irish Theater after an earlier television appearance caused a kerfuffle which resulted in the tv station receiving a threat of a lawsuit from the religious faction of Ireland if it were shown again.  This talk is put with a soundtrack provided by the Pet Shop Boys.

pas de deux 11-11-2014

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Only with time do we really learn who the other person is and come to love the person for him- or herself and not just for the feelings and experiences they give us.” ― Timothy Keller
Only with time do we really learn who the other person is and come to love the person for him- or herself and not just for the feelings and experiences they give us.”
― Timothy Keller

this post is meant to send a blessing to my dear friends ruben and alex on the day they have chosen to make a commitment to declare their faith and love for each other. i  love and admire them sincerely and have no doubt they will continue their enchanted dance and remarkable adventures making the very challenging and most complicated things in life seem elegant and effortless.

best wishes and congratulations my dear friends.

 

When you begin to touch your heart or let your heart be touched, you begin to discover that it's bottomless, that it doesn't have any resolution, that this heart is huge, vast, and limitless. You begin to discover how much warmth and gentleness is there, as well as how much space. - Pema Chodron
When you begin to touch your heart or let your heart be touched, you begin to discover that it’s bottomless, that it doesn’t have any resolution, that this heart is huge, vast, and limitless. You begin to discover how much warmth and gentleness is there, as well as how much space.
– Pema Chodron

 

Go n-eírí an bóthar leat.
May the road rise with you.


May the blessing of the rain be on you—
the soft sweet rain.
May it fall upon your spirit
so that all the little flowers may spring up,
and shed their sweetness on the air.
May the blessing of the great rains be on you,
may they beat upon your spirit
and wash it fair and clean,
and leave there many a shining pool
where the blue of heaven shines,
and sometimes a star.

May the good earth be soft under you
when you rest upon it,
and may it rest easy over you when,
at the last, you lay out under it,
And may it rest so lightly over you
that your soul may be out
from under it quickly,
and up, and off,
And be on its way to God.

Dear Lord,
Give me a few friends
who will love me for what I am,
and keep ever burning
before my vagrant steps
the kindly light of hope…
And though I come not within sight
of the castle of my dreams,
teach me to be thankful for life,
and for time’s olden memories
that are good and sweet.
And may the evening’s twilight
find me gentle still.

May your day be touched
by a bit of Irish luck,
brightened by a song in your heart,
and warmed by the smiles
of the people you love.

May the light of heaven shine on your grave.

Bless those minding cattle,
And those minding sheep,
And those fishing the sea
While the rest of us sleep.

If God sends you down a stony path,
may he give you strong shoes.

May the rains sweep gentle across your fields,
May the sun warm the land,
May every good seed you have planted bear fruit,
And late summer find you standing in fields of plenty.

May the frost never afflict your spuds.
May the leaves of your cabbage always be free from worms.
May the crows never pick your haystack.
If you inherit a donkey, may she be in foal.

May there always be work for your hands to do.
May your purse always hold a coin or two.
May the sun always shine on your windowpane.
May a rainbow be certain to follow each rain.
May the hand of a friend always be near you.
May God fill your heart with gladness to cheer you.

Wherever you go and whatever you do,
May the luck of the Irish be there with you.

Wishing you always…
Walls for the wind,
A roof for the rain
And tea beside the fire.
Laughter to cheer you,
Those you love near you,
And all that your heart may desire

May neighbours respect you,
Trouble neglect you,
The angels protect you,
And heaven accept you.

May the light of heaven shine on your grave.

May the smile of God light you to glory.

God bless the corners of this house,
And be the lintel blest,
And bless the hearth and bless the board,
And bless each place of rest,
And bless each door that opens wide
To stranger as to kin,
And bless each crystal window pane
That lets the starlight in,
And bless the rooftree overhead
And every sturdy wall.
The peace of man, the peace of God,
The peace of love on all.